my partner is watching porn

My partner watches porn, is it serious?

Most people watch pornographic movies in privacy. We often have the image of a teenager masturbating alone in his room in front of his screen showing naked girls having sex with men. We often use pornography to satisfy our unfulfilled sexual fantasies. It is this mystery that causes some couples to have doubts: should I worry if my partner is watching porn?

The other’s masturbation does not interfere with the relationship

If your partner is one of those people who watch erotic movies, then confronting him, or her is like talking about masturbation or pleasuring yourself. But is there really anything to worry about? You should know that masturbation helps you to know your body better and how to give it a pleasure. Masturbation has been frowned upon for too long because of the risk of preventing births. Today, the taboo surrounding masturbation is gradually being lifted, as demonstrated by the existence of a book entitled “Little Guide to Female Masturbation“, written by Julia Pietri, the activities of the Instagram account @gangduclito or in the Netflix series Sex Education, where the main character Otis also reminds us that this activity is strongly present in the daily life of adolescents.

On the female side, the Netflix series Working Moms shows scenes of female masturbation (of the mothers); scenes that find their reason in a search for compensation of the daily frustration.

Working Moms

These examples illustrate that masturbation is not such a bad thing in itself and for the couple. Taking pleasure is not always easy and to think otherwise would be a mistake. The practice of masturbation does not necessarily prove a lack to fill in the other, but it creates tension in some couples. In this case, what is the proof that the couple is satisfied with their relationship?

What is the difference between reality and fantasy?

When we look at fictional movies like Harry Potter or action movies like James Bond, we know that they are only staged. The same is true in the erotic film industry. But why is it so difficult to understand that it is the same in pornography? It’s not because a person is excited by a movie that he/she longs to make his/her fantasies come true. It’s probably just a desire or a fantasy that he wants to fulfill. In the same way, if an actress excites your partner, it does not mean that he does not love you. Pornography is a film of sexual fantasy and desire that is either for masturbation or for education. You can hate these films, but it is important not to imprison or restrict the other person, in spite of everything, he is the master of himself.

Watching a porn movie together

Watching porn in a relationship can be an effective way to spice up the couple’s sexual desire. It will allow you to learn more about shared fantasies or your partner’s fantasies. Knowing that an actress or something turns your partner on, can bring new complicity into your relationship. So instead of being afraid of the sexual fantasies of the other, what if we dare to ask him or her about making an X movie together? Pornography in the couple is not a drama. But if on the contrary, your partner wants to force you into activities that you do not like at all, such as the desire for violence for example, then it becomes a problem. There are obviously cases where individuals are addicted to pornography, which can have a negative effect on the couple.

If you are both happy and in harmony in your relationship and your sexuality is lively, why should you wonder about the pleasure your partner gets from pornography alone? If you feel that there is a sexual dissatisfaction behind this practice, ask him or her about it and try to understand the pleasure he or she gets from it before imagining scenarios.

There is no reason to prevent your partner from watching X-rated movies, because in a couple, it is important to leave his sexual freedom to the other to have his intimacy and why not his pleasure alone. This proves mutual trust, respect for each other, and can have benefits on your sexuality as a couple. But be careful, even if you have to give him his space, you should never let him impose practices that you don’t like and that is violent.

 

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